Super excited.. I have an announcement..

So, I officially have a podcast now and I Couldn’t be more excited about it, I’ve always wanted to do one in the past but never thought I could or that anyone would care to listen plus I needed a good topic.

To start..

I went on anchor it’s an app and It allows you to start your own podcast and allows you to share it wherever you want too. I did my first episode tonight and it’s only seven minutes long but the ones after will be longer and I’m super excited to share and voice my opinions with the world and talk about a topic that has honestly became very near and dear to my heart the past couple of months and means a lot to me.

Topic..

I will be talking about mental health/mental illness on my podcast, this subject has become such a Hugh part of my life the past year especially since starting this blog and being able to connect with others who deal with the same things as me or have similar backgrounds. It makes me happy to be able to help others with my story and also read others blogs and get to see the things they have gone through and how they find the strength to be happy and make it through each day. If I can change a life or make anyone out there feel better then that helps me to heal and helps me to know I’m doing something right.

What to look forward too.

So basically I’ll be blogging 3 days a week Friday-Sunday and also doing my podcast everyday or every other day and I hope you guys will take a listen. I’m going to find a way to balance it all, I also was doing YouTube but that has been on hold for now too. Timing isn’t always on my side as I would like it to be. Between work, being a mom and dealing with everything else I’m a busy bee during the week but I’m definitely going to find a way to get on track with everything and I’m going to post the links to all my sites on here so you guys can follow or take a look.

Final thoughts.

I’m really excited for what 2019 has in store for me and I can’t wait to expand and do different things and have fun while doing it. So for the ones that follow me I appreciate you so much for reading my blog and for the ones who view my blog and take the time to visit my page thank you as well. Im always grateful so keep looking out for more new things from me, I will keep you guys updated, enjoy your Sunday!

Keeping up with me:

https://www.instagram.com/xxangeliclovexx

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClMlsfycn0FYkgBkQU4Ik6A

anchor.fm/cherelle3 -podcast

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Helping others, your not alone..

Good Morning, it’s a beautiful Sunday morning and I can’t sleep, so I decided to work on my Sunday blog, I got this topic because in my last post I touched on mental illness and people sometimes needed help but not being able to seek it.

Story time*

Last night, I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone he called me kind of in a panic and, I was wondering what’s going on and he started to tell me about his brother acting strange, So in the past his brother has struggled with mental illness and had break downs due to personal things going on in his life and he said “babe my brother is acting strange again, I think his mental illness is back again” I explained to him, I said mental illness doesn’t go away, you find ways to control it and try to keep it in control but it never fully goes away. You can use things like medication to help or you can try to control it on your own. I think that’s a big thing for me and not everyone knows all the signs or what to do when they have a friend or family member in these situations.

Helping someone..

If you see a friend or family member dealing with something the best thing to do is to monitor that person because you don’t wanna jump the gun and assume something is wrong right away and then it turns out to be nothing. The worse thing you can do is upset someone who is already in a tough situation, I remember masking my pain a lot not being able to tell anyone that help was needed, I would cry in silence, I was miserable everyday my anxiety was getting worse my depression had kicked in and yet ,I was still putting on an act for the world wearing a fake smile and one day, I broke down to my mom and told her everything that was going on, I knew I had to reach out to someone because help was needed.

Signs to look for-

I grabbed this from https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/warning-signs-of-mental-illness so go check this website out guys!

1.sleep or appetite change

2.mood changes

3.withdrawal

3.drop in functioning

4.problems thinking

5.feeling disconnected

These are Only a few, so check there website out for me information.

I wanted to shed light on this because so many people out here need help or are reaching out and no one is there for them. I want no one out there to feel alone in talking to my boyfriend last night it made me realize, some people don’t know what to do in this situations all the time and they feel helpless trying to save someone. I feel like mental illness needs to be talked about more and a light really needs to be shed on this type of topics. I see so much of it around me now and I see so much of it going UN noticed and the last thing you want is someone you love hurting.

Final thoughts-

Please don’t suffer in silence, if you need help or someone around you needs help. Please get the help you need and don’t feel ashamed to ask. It’s Sunday so I’m going to lighten this up a little.please enjoy your day also, I may do a double post today. Give someone a hug today and let them know they are not alone.

This truly makes me sad..

I try to always keep a level head, I try to see everyone’s point of view and I try not to do the whole back and fourth arguing with people because it gets us no where. It truly saddens me and breaks my heart to see people with mental illnesses shaming other people who have mental illnesses like what the hell? How dare someone who suffers shame another person dealing with the same thing. You cannot tell someone else’s story when your not in that persons shoes.

People always say to me “oh you look so happy”, “your always so pulled together” or “are you ever sad” the truth is so much goes through my head daily I’m happy some days other days I’m depressed and my anxiety is all over the place but whenever I’m around people they would never know because I’m so good at covering it up and not letting anyone know I’m broken. People have to realize you can be happy or come off happy to others and still not be ok. Last weekend, I was with my boyfriend and I was telling him a story on how I was driving and I had this image of a cliff and I was falling off the cliff and my (child’s father) was on the top and he was holding on to my hand and I was so miserable and wanted to get away from him in my mind, I wanted him to let me fall. The whole time I’m telling my boyfriend this story he was in shock he couldn’t believe that my mind went to that place. Certain things/people can trigger my anxiety so bad and those are the people I cannot be around.

I was on twitter last night and someone who suffered from depression stated that a friend saw them out and said “you don’t look depressed to me” then it started the question in the comments “what does depression, look like?” The answer to that is clear, depression doesn’t have a look to it someone can be so happy and still be miserable at the same time. It’s not nice or kind to try to diagnose someone or tell them what they have or don’t have you may not understand what that person is going through but it doesn’t give you the right to judge them or make them feel even worse about it. Treat others the way you want someone to treat you.

I feel like some people get picked on over and over for things they have done or not done and it’s not ok, you have to realize someone with a mental illness does not have the same mind set as someone who doesn’t so to those who don’t get it at all, I suggest you educate yourself or start off by asking questions before you jump to conclusions or start diagnosing someone. Everyone’s mind is different and everyone thinks differently but it doesn’t make them not human we all bleed the same, we all feel the same pain we’re a lot more alike then different in some ways. I also will say please don’t jump on the bandwagon, I hate when I read a comment that’s negative online and then a bunch of other people will comment negativity and in my mind, I’m like aren’t you the same person who wrote something positive a minute ago like please have a mind of your own is all I’m saying even if it means standing alone. “If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything” great quote by Alexander Hamilton and it speaks volumes especially for the society we live in today.

I speak on mental illness so much now since starting this blog, because I’m realizing how important it is and that everyone needs a voice to be heard, it was always important to me but I never really had a platform to speak about it on and now with my blogging, I can use my voice and stand for what I believe in. My biggest thing is more people should be educated on it so when situations arise they know how to handle them or they aren’t mis informed. I see so much bullying when it comes to these type of stigmas and it’s sad because we should be coming together not being against one another. I wanna continue to use my voice and speak on my experiences and hopefully it will help others.

It’s Sunday it’s relaxation day so I won’t keep going on with my rant but I’m sure you get the point so display some love today and relax before work Monday. I’m off to the store with my daughter now ✌️😊

telling someone what to feel/ how they are and what mental health issues they have. (It’s never ok)

So I’m a little mad writing this because it really bothers me when people try to tell someone with mental health issues that they don’t have depression or anxiety or even bi polar. (I know there’s others as well, sorry I didn’t list them all) You never know what a person is going through and that person knows their bodies better than anyone else. So many cases go undetected because of people thinking that way “‘ nothings wrong with my son” “she will be ok” or “you don’t have any mental health issues, it’s all in your head” things like this are not ok to say when someone is dealing with issues that even they sometimes are unaware of.

I was on twitter and read a post from a women who seems to think that people shouldn’t diagnose themselves because things happen in life and it’s normal, She also goes on to say we throw out these words for no reason, (for attention) Well first off when I first got diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) I was in college and I knew something was wrong with me before even seeing my doctor. My therapist was the first one to tell me I had anxiety from there I went to see my doctor who officially confirmed it after talking with me and doing “test” of his own. I’ve had it for years now and try not to let it define me and try my best to live a happy/good life.

My point here is, are you a doctor? Are you a psychiatrist? If the answer is no then stop trying to tell someone what is wrong with them because you have no idea what that person is going through. I stated in a previous post that my moms friend son has mental health issues they have gone undetected mean while his brother thinks he does all the things he does on purpose however I’ve know them for years and I can tell you his behavior is far from normal the things he says and does now he never did before plus he has gone to a doctor and been diagnosed as well yet his brother is still in denial witch doesn’t help the situation at all.

A lot of times family/friends don’t understand what’s going on with us so they tend to put labels on you or tell you nothing is wrong with you. The biggest thing people should do is educate themselves on these type of things and do research before they speak on a person and what is wrong with them. I myself have had people tell me nothing was wrong with me and it leads to me having to explain this whole story to them and also telling them to Educate themselves before speaking you can never know what a person is going through if you are not in that person shoes.

This is one of the many times in my life where I’ve spoken so much about this and I’m glad that I made this blog because it gives me a voice and other people can relate to it as well. I will continue to say this over and over the world needs so much love and if I could hug ever individual in the word I would do it in a heart beat because we all need hugs every now and then. Please please remember we are all humans here we all have feelings and don’t make someone feel like the way they feel is not justified because that’s not your place.

Also if you know anyone out there with a mental illness or someone who exhibits signs say something and try your best to help that person but don’t put someone down and don’t tell someone what they have or don’t have we all know our bodies we all know how we should feel and not feel and don’t let your diagnoses go undetected please seek help with a doctor, therapist even a friend or family member and never give up never because your life is worth it and you are loved and beautiful inside and out and never forget that.

I hope this post helps someone out there, please enjoy your Saturday. I’m done rambling now, I promise.

Why going to therapy is so important/taking care of yourself /mental health.

If anyone saw or read one of my recent post about anxiety this kind of goes back to that a little bit (If you haven’t read it go check it out) so basically I do suffer with anxiety and my therapy really helps me get through that so I started seeing a therapist like two or three years ago she’s really great and she helps me a lot her office is 5 minutes away from my home and she’s always a call away when I need her.

I wanted to touch on this topic because so many people talk down on therapy or they will say I don’t need help or I don’t want a stranger listening to my problems but they fail to see sometimes it’s actually really a good thing, when I first went to my session I honestly thought it would be like what they show on television I’m picturing laying across a couch where the therapist sits and takes notes trust me it’s nothing like that at all.

A lot of times we have problems or go through things and we cant always talk to our families or friends about it or maybe we have but we still feel like we need more help so we contemplate in our heads about calling a therapist but then we get scared because we don’t want anyone to think we’re crazy or can’t handle it all, the reality is it’s perfectly normal to not have it all together, we all go through things or feel different emotions.

Therapy is important to speak your truth to tell someone out there who dosent know you and Won’t judge you, it’s good to tell your story and be able to express yourself and get whatever help that you need. So many mental health cases go un noticed or aren’t detected because we don’t acknowledge that we have a problem or need help. We tend to sit in our problems witch leads to depression and those thoughts sit with us everyday and it starts to get serious some people contemplate suicide others can’t even leave the house.

Always, always remember it’s ok to go see a therapist it’s ok to not be ok and it’s ok to have whatever feelings you have but don’t sit in those problems everyday don’t let it get so bad to the point where you’re taking your own life or harming someone else, never let the people around you tell you not to get help or that going to therapy is a bad thing because it’s not your health and your well being is important always remember that.

My moms friend is dealing with a situation now with her son who has mental health issues and it’s really hard on her because she dosent know what to do, she’s tried everything to get him help but no one will help her and now she’s in a situation where she’s debating on what to do next because he refuses help and won’t take his medication, this is why it’s so important to seek help when it’s needed even if you have to check into a hospital.

Take care of yourself always and please anyone out there who needs help don’t be scared to reach out for it and get it, no one is judging you and its going to be ok.

https://www.mentalhealth.gov/what-to-look-for

Check out this site (For anyone who needs it)