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Women to women|Coming together.

It’s crazy because, I originally was going to do another post but instead I ended up picking this topic because day in and day out, I see so much bickering between women and it’s sad that as women we tend to pit ourselves against each other or down one another. we’re our own worse enemy and can’t even see it, it’s bad enough some(keyword some because not all men do this) men put us down but then we turn around and do it to ourselves and I can’t seem to understand why? I’ve watched another women go to another women’s page just to comment on a picture they didn’t like or to tear that women down for no reason at all, how do you sleep at night? And then the main ones that get me are the ones that put “child of god” in their bio like please that has to be a sick joke you cannot call yourself such a thing mean while your putting someone else down or name calling someone and I agree everyone has the right to their own opinion but there’s a difference, when it’s coming from a good place or when your just being plain nasty for no reason.

My experience..

I’ve never really fit into the in crowd, I’ve never been miss popularity but at the same time I’ve never felt the need to be anyone but me, I was bullied all through school by the mean girls as we call them. I never understood why someone can be so cruel, I was name called and told I was ugly, fat, and stupid by girls who didn’t even know me and their words started to eat at me as I got older and I started to believe it to a certain extent witch lead me down a path of destruction, starving myself, going days with no food and exercising constantly, hating the person behind the mirror. It’s weird to say those same girls now are fake friendly whenever they see me out but of course I never forget, my cousins ex also use to bully me in school and then turned around and tried to be nice to me because she was dating him. I can forgive a lot of things but trust me this girl will never forget.

The things I see.

I’m randomly on instagram today and as usual I’m scrolling down my time line and also looking at the search section where they show a bunch of pictures of celebrities, it saddens me to see so many women downing other women or saying ignorant things to be mean for no reason,like what is your motive? I honestly feel a lot of it is jealousy and the other part is women not liking who they are, self esteem is definitely a killer and will have you hating who you are, I’ve been there before. I will say this it’s no ones problem because you don’t like who you are and you should not treat others like shit because you don’t love yourself, it’s up to you to fix the broken pieces in you and get yourself together but don’t down another women or another person in general because you don’t like the shoes your in. I have to give tough love in this post for so many reasons because this is seen so much and it shouldn’t be.

Things to work on..

If you or anyone you know is that girl, I will say this it’s not too late to change who you are, and the next time you get online or even in person and see something you don’t like, keep scrolling it’s not hard, I do it all the time. I think as women we should always back each other the world we live in is already cold enough so why down one another. We have this new “me too” movement in place witch is suppose to be women empowerment yet still in some ways we have a long way to go as far as coming together but that’s a whole other topic. I truly encourage you to love on one another and treat each other the way you want to be treated stop putting others down and love yourself and the next time you think about saying something mean turn it into a positive.

Conclusion..

We have to stick together and show love each time we get a chance, so women even men let’s rise above the drama and be better than ever. I challenge you to go out today/tomorrow and say something nice to someone you love.

bullying

Bullying IN the workplace!

Hello, I hope everyone is having a lovely Sunday, as promised I will be sharing my experience with bullying in the work place, I think at one point in time we have all dealt with situations like this at work and it’s all you handle them and how you choose to rise above it. I will never condone bullying in any shape or form period weather it’s at work, school or in a public setting it’s never ok.

My story..

I had my daughter in 2017 of March as I’ve stated in previous post, i worked until February before choosing to take maternity leave but before going out things at my Job were a little rocky. The crazy part is I had a baby shower and of course all my friends and family were there so of course naturally i chose to invite my co workers. The shower went amazing everyone had a great time (during my leave someone was hired to fill in for me) she was ok at the time or at least I thought she was but that’s a whole other story.

Going back to work..

So in May I went back to work thinking everything was going to be great come to find out my position had been given away to the other employee and I was told my job would be the same also they had me in an office doing paper work all day, Everything was different now my boss was mean to me so we’re the other two girls at the desk mind you I never did anything to these girls I hadn’t seen them in months due to having my daughter. It was constant torture having them be mean to me day in and day out at the time my only friend was the phlebotomist who worked in the lab she always took up for me and told me it would be ok( we no longer speak due to unfortunate circumstance but I will tell that story in another post) I was crying all the time, telling my mom how I hated my job it was horrible.

Some things, I wish I did different..

So being petty and fed up I will not lie I did run to Facebook and post some things that I should have not about the girls only because I was fed up at the time I’m not condoning my behavior at all I understand it was wrong, however one of my co workers took it upon herself to tell my boss some things that were said and I ended up in her office we talked I apologize she apologized and we left it there but still the drama continued for a while longer until the phlebotomist quit and then the girl who took my position left work and I got my Original job back.

Where I’m at now..

So basically I’m still at my Job and I love the doctor I work for a lot and I get along with all the girls now,we no longer have any drama everything’s been great, I will say this SOME of the drama was coming from the phlebotomist at the time she was stirring the pot ( a lot of he say she say) and I really believed she was my friend at the time, she turned out not to be it turns out her and the girl who was doing my job were nothing but mean girls scheming together and they both did things that were not nice against me witch is why I choose not to deal with them now at all. They were trying to pit me against my manager and other co workers who I had known way longer.( this still does not excuse the fact that my manager and co workers still played a role here too)

Why I won’t tolerate bullying..

I don’t like bullies and I hate People who bully others it’s not ok ever and all though I have forgiven my co workers, I will never forget what was done to me. You should never ever make someone feel bad about who they are, the situation really messed with my anxiety and took a huge toll on me mentally and physically. so I wish this on no one remember if you are being bullied speak up and say something do not allow it and if you see someone getting bullied you should speak up don’t allow it to keep happening because so many people wait till it’s too late and someone ends up hurt or even dead and that’s never ok, respect each other always.

Stand against bullies please and enjoy your Sunday because it’s back to work tomorrow. So get your rest in.