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Does age really matter|when dating|in relationships!

FYI I’m not promoting someone who is super old to date someone 17 or under/ or the other way around, just wanted to put that out there when it comes to this topic I would never promote that.

I been thinking about this post for two days now and I keep posing the question in my mind, I hear it constantly being talked about online also in person and it makes me wonder does age really matter at all?

My Story:

In my early 20’s I dated a guy who was 30 and it never really bothered me, he saw me as his equal and I didn’t treat him like he was older, we had a some what of a great relationship but every couple has it’s ups and downs. I did realize some people were like your really dating someone that old or she’s so young but it never really bothered us and I remembered my grandma telling me she was happy for me but again that relationship didn’t last for other reasons but the age never really bothered me.

Fast forward:

My boyfriend and I now are two years apart, I feel so old don’t even wanna reveal my age but what the hell who cares right? So anyway when we met he was 26 and I was 28 well fast forward I’m a year older now and his 27 the point is age should not matter his not immature I’m not strict or trying to be his mother because I’m older we really mesh together he gets me and I get him, his my best friend and the best thing that’s ever happened to me age doesn’t matter when you love someone so why do people make such a big deal about it?

Let’s get down to the bottom..

People really need to let others be happy, worry about yourself and not other people. stop preaching and telling people how they should live their life or what they should be doing. Age doesn’t matter it’s what in that persons heart and think about it this way, someone could be the same age as you and still be immature someone who is older could still be immature it’s really no way of telling but it’s whoever your compatible with and when looking to date age shouldn’t effect how you feel for a person. Going back to favorite motto “if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all” choose happiness and let others be happy as well.

Final words..

I feel like society puts so much pressure on the world when it comes to certain things and it’s sad that we fall prey to what society thinks about us or how we should be when it’s not even necessary to be that way, Life is short so Do whatever makes you happy and don’t worry about what others are going to say or think. Age is a number it does not matter and we should all be happy and love hard. So to anyone out there who is dating someone older or younger don’t listen to outside voices do what makes you happy and live your life.

I’m sorry this is so short, I’m kind of taking a mini blog break again gotta hit the reset button so me not blogging as much means I’m taking a mini break but I’ll still try to blog in between. Sometimes I value my “me time” nothing against anyone Just need time to clear my head. Enjoy your Wednesday night I’m off to relax then off To bed 🙂

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Bad relationships/why do we stay?

The reason I’m making this blog post is because we all have that one friend or family member who has been with the wrong guy or girl and we continue to tell them over and over it’s not going to work but to them we sound crazy and should mind our business, well today at work we had girl talk and of course the topic of discussion was relationships and how we feel about certain things that men/women tend to do and why do we stay sometimes even when we’re miserable.

Let’s get started..

So one of my co workers is currently dealing with a relationship dilemma,she’s not sure weather she should leave her relationship or stay. she’s not happy but doesn’t want to leave him “when his down” as she says and honestly I think a lot of women feel this way, I know I’ve stayed in many bad relationships because, I thought I loved that person and I thought things Would work out but it didn’t and it left me stuck and full of emotions and trying to figure out how to deal with them. So then poses the question is love really enough? Honestly in my opinion it’s not you can love the hell out of someone but love is not going to keep me there especially when I’m miserable and unhappy. I’ve learned that I have to love me first and do what makes me happy.

Let’s dig deeper..

In all my past relationships I wasn’t happy with myself and it caused me to cling to the wrong type of men,in my mind they loved me but it wasn’t love at all it was me being stuck in bad situations and thinking it was enough when clearly it wasn’t, I was always finding myself pondering back and fourth trying to please others over myself and no matter how many times i got hurt it never stopped me from giving love a try again even though in my mind it was clear what the outcome would be, my heart indured so much pain and it cause me more heartache then anything and it honestly wasn’t worth it in the end. I will also add this if you feel like you have to cheat on your partner because they are not giving you attention or you are that miserable being with them, my biggest suggestion is move on and leave them don’t hurt that person because you are hurting that’s make no sense to me at all and I seen it happen to many time with friends or people I know so leave the situation don’t make things even worse.

When do we start to love us enough..

It really breaks my heart to see women even men with the wrong person and watch them waste their time so many times over and over and at some point we have to have that self love for ourselves because when we don’t it turns in to us picking the wrong person to be with, I’m always challenging people around me to stay single and focus on themselves until they really know what they want and can find self love first before beginning to love another person. In the end it causes a lot of unresolved problems and causes us to resent that person even though we had a choice to leave or stay. I watch my co worker talk daily about her relationship and anything you say to her she gets mad because she has talked herself into being happy when in reality she’s not she vents and complains to us daily and we give her advice but she never takes it and in no way shape or form am I degrading her or trying to make her look like a bad person because trust me I’ve been that girl before in relationships I more so wanted to use her story as an example to help others because we have all been there at one point in time.

Conclusion..

At the end of the day I hate to say it but we only have ourselves to blame when we choose to be in bad relationships with the wrong person because the door is always open but we chose to leave it closed. I hope that this helps someone out there know that you are loved and the right person is coming to you so be patient and keep being you also don’t jump too quick into relationships without knowing more about the person and always always make sure to love you first. I’m rooting for each and every one of you and I know things will be ok. Stay positive my sweeties.

I have to get back to work now we’re starting to get busy ✌️

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Favorite date night spots|I’m gearing up for date night this weekend!!

I’m a hopeless romantic as alway and I’m always in the mood to talk about love and share my experiences so in honor of my up coming date night this weekend, I thought I would share some of my favorite date night places also great date places to go whenever your in the mood for a date and some fun.

1. Dinner

So dinner at your favorite restaurant with great food and even fantastic conversation can never go wrong you and your date can sit across from one another and truly get to know each other over a glass of wine or even water if drinking isn’t your thing. You can go to a fancy restaurant down town or even some place simple whatever makes you and your date happy either way going out to eat is a great choice for a first date. The night can be full of surprises yes it can.(by the way my favorite restaurant is red lobster)

2. Movies

I know some might be thinking this is so basic but no my boyfriend and I love to go to the cinema bistro it offers movies plus dinner and drinks it’s so much fun when picking the right movie it’s my boyfriends favorite place to go and like always he ends up picking the movie and I talk his head off trying to figure out what’s going to happens next. This is also good for a first date because you can watch your favorite movie and get to know your date at the same time so it’s a win win for both (personally I would rather watch movies at home) but I will do the movies for him.

3. Park

It’s nothing like a good old fashion date in the park with a picnic because you can eat and talk and be one with nature. I’ve always wanted to do a picnic never done it though but I say go for it and please enjoy yourself their is so many other things you can do in the park for Instance play a game of frisbee, walk the trails, even cook on the grill. It’s all about having fun and enjoying the nature with your significant other and if your like me and you love the outside then this is right up your ally so I say go ahead and make your park date happen soon rather then later. You won’t regret it!

4.spend time alone inside

Ok ok I know what your thinking how the hell is staying inside a good date well let me tell you all you have to do is cook your partner some dinner and cuddle up on the couch for some movies it’s the perfect set up and you don’t have to leave home, I love doing things like this with my boyfriend mainly because I’m a homebody anyway but also because you don’t always have to leave home to have a good time remember that, sometimes it’s ok to stay in and enjoy each other’s company once in a while. So try it sometime and close the outside world out for a little while 🙂

5.bowling

I suck at bowling and I cannot bowl a strike to save my life but hey it’s not always about winning right? The point is this is a fun exciting date where you can get to know your date and have a good time while doing it, they even have good nachos mmm love my nachos but seriously guys this is a great place to go and you don’t have to take yourself so serious you can showcase your fun side and while also showing the other person your hobbies so it’s kind of a win win and soo much fun at the same time so I say let’s go bowling 🎳 no realkt let’s go 👉 lol

6. The bar

Yes I know what your thinking but some people don’t want the date to be super serious or uncomfortable so going to a bar to talk or have a drink or two isn’t the worse thing in the world. Some bars even do karaoke night and you can never go wrong with that. The idea is to not take yourself so serious and learn to have some fun again I say go for it, it’s really whatever makes you happy either way as long as your getting to know the person and having fun that’s all that matters in the end.

Conclusion

Date night should alway be something you should keep in your relationship it helps to go out every now and then and enjoy some alone time with your partner so between your busy Schedule always try to make time for one another and live in the moment always. I can’t wait for date night and I hope your next days is everything you want it to be and more. enjoy your Tuesday night I’ll be enjoying mine because I’m off to bed, time to close my eyes.

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Top 5 favorite love quotes

So again everyone should know by now I’m a sucker for love always so, I thought I would share my top five favorite love quotes with you guys, I hope you like and enjoy.

Let’s get started..

1.

This is a good quote because it teaches you to be strong in your relationship, basically your going to go through things in your relationship but in the end, it will make your relationship 100 % stronger. Let’s face it no relationships is perfect!

2.

This is so true, it’s the exact same reason I fell for my boyfriend, remember to always enjoy your relationship and don’t let the little things break you. Always laugh and talk and remember why you fell in love and most importantly appreciate one another and love hard.

3.

This quote is true in so many ways, sometimes we tend to settle for the wrong person because In our mind we think they are the one we’re so blinded by love that we can’t even see that, that person isn’t the one. so in our minds this is what we think we deserve, when really we deserve so much better, please don’t settle guys someone out there is willing to give you the love you really do deserve.( someone I know is in a smiler situation and it’s sad watching her being miserable and unhappy with the wrong person) hopefully she realizes what she truly deserves soon.

4.

I love this bob Marley quote it’s true in so many ways, unfortunately you will get hurt sometimes by people you love. The amazing thing is you have right to choose who you want in your life and who you don’t want around you. Don’t allow someone to keep hurting you over and over again because that means they don’t care enough to consider your feelings love is never easy but it’s worth it with the right person alway remember that.

5.

This goes back to self love again, you must love and respect yourself first before you expect someone else too. Remember it’s ok to be single focus on yourself sometimes make sure your ok before you try to be with anybody else. Self love is the best love and as this quote says you set the tone for the relationships you wanna have in your life weather it be from family, friends or boyfriend/girlfriends.

Conclusion..

So these are some of my favorite love quotes of course there is more so their will definitely be a part two coming soon. Remember to love and be loved is the best feeling also remember to love yourself first and always choose happiness. Goodnight I’m off to bed now enjoy the ones you love and spread lots of joy. ❤️

parenting

Do,I want more kids???

So, I had my daughter in March of 2017 and she will be two next year and I know I’m not the only person that has kids and people continue to ask you over and over “when are you going to have more kids?” That question can be a little annoying at times honestly not going to lie but I get asked constantly by friends,family even my patients ask me. So I know the question here is do I want more kids in the future?

Let’s talk about it…

At one point in my life I wasn’t even sure I wanted kids when I was in my early 20’s going out all the time with friends and having fun, I watched all my friends have kids young and I told myself that was not going to be me. So of course I did wait till I was in my later 20’s to finally have my daughter who is my world might I add. I will say this though “kids are not for everybody” not everyone in my opinion is meant to be a mom or father. It’s nothing wrong with that and some people notice it right away and decide not to have children for different reasons others have kids anyway knowing they are no where fit to be parents and the sad part is the kids end up suffering and honestly that truly breaks my heart when I hear so many news stories of kids dying at the hand of a parent who could of done things differently.

For instance my aunt who is 49 she’s going to kill me for revealing her age but she’s never had kids or been married she’s been in a relationship with her boyfriend for a few years now, they talk about having kids sometimes but she’s at that critical age (I will not say it’s too late because Janet Jackson is proof it’s never too late) ,however I don’t think she will have kids and I think it makes her sad sometimes because she’s always wanted her own family but she’s also my daughters god mom and she’s great with her so it goes back to what I was saying not everyone is meant to have kids, you may want kids but god may have something completely different planned for you.

To answer the big question…

Yes I do want more children, I hope to have my next child with my current boyfriend this is the first time in my life that I’m truly happy, truly in love and can see myself with him for the rest of my life, we talk about marriage and kids all the time but of course I’m not ready for all that yet. It’s still a few more things I wanna accomplish in my life before having my next child so to all the People who constantly ask me you finally got your answer. It’s kind of different for us too because we’re still in the process of getting new jobs, deciding weather we wanna live in his city or mine and all that other stuff so once all that’s in place we will definitely have a little one of our own but of course I wanna be married first this time around too, I wanna do everything the right way this time.

To anyone out there it’s ok to not want kids it’s not for everyone I’m definitely not judging and if you have kids I’m sure you love them like crazy even when they drive you crazy lol it happens kids are going to be kids. We all have a story to tell so enjoy this beautiful Thursday guys and don’t let anyone rain on your happy parade.

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My favorite romance movies part two ✌️

Ok guys so as promised I’m giving you a part two to my favorite romance movies because last time I forgot to list the other ones I really like, I’m still very sick so my post might seem a little off or may get posted late and instead of posting twice a day it may be only once a day until I start feeling better, I apologize in advance but I will get back on track soon.( if you catch me posting twice in a day it’s because I’m feeling a little bit better) a girl can change her mind you never know what can happen.

Let’s get to part two…

Twilight- I absolutely love this movie by the way I’m team Edward Incase anyone wanted to know. I loved how Bella loved Edward and how she got caught up in his world and fell in love with him despite all the things going on around her. Ok ok I will admit Jacob was a cutie too and he had his moments with Bella that were cute too but still I’m team Jacob I’m sure by now most people have seen this movie, I have all the movies on dvd and if you haven’t seen it go see it because Kristen Stewart killed this role.

2. Remember me- ok so Robert Pattinson who has a lovely accent and who played in twilight as well played so well in this movie like it brings me to tears in the end when he passes away it’s also about 9/11 witch is so emotional and said you have to see this movie if you haven’t be prepared for the water works guys I’m telling you. Love stories get me every time I’m a hopeless romantic all the time literally.

3. Beyond the lights- this movie is so so good it really gives you a look in behind the scenes of the music industry while at the same time creating a great love story between and artist and police office and how their worlds collide and they fall in love, again you must see this movie if you haven’t it’s on Netflix and bet occasionally plays it too. Check it out!

4. 10 things I hate about you-

This movie starred Julie Stiles who I love as an actor not only that but seeing how you never know who you will fall in love with is always a good thing sometimes because the person we like is usually right around the corner most times and we tend to friend zone them and in the end they end up being who we should of been with all along. So the next time you start to crush on a friend tell them how you feel because you never know what could happen.

5. Save the last dance-

This is another Julia Stiles movie that I love, always remember love has no color or gender be happy with who you are and embrace it always. I love how this is based in Chicago and centers around “Sarah” trying to get into Juilliard a well known school in Chicago for performing arts also along the way she meets Derek and they fall in love but the pressure of friends and family and coming from two different worlds caressing some problems in their relationship, this is a great movie and I’m sure most have seen it but if you haven’t go watch.

So again guys this was fun giving you another view into my favorite movies, once again I’m sorry for the late post I been literally typing this post on and off all day ughhh being sick sucks, hope you guys enjoy your Wednesday night, also there might be a part 3 coming soon you never know.

Ok time for me to rest/sleep now..

And drown in medicine 🤧😴

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My top 5 love/romance movies.

Ok, so I know this is motivation Monday but we can always turn this into some love moments too right? So I’m sitting here thinking like why not share my favorite movies with you and why I love them so much, yes I’m a hopeless romantic, love makes the world go round. Ok ok enough of my rambling let’s get in to it.

Top 5

1. a walk to remember-

I fell in love with this movie for one because many Moore was in it and let me say Shane west killed his role as the loving bad boy. The movie really touched my heart in so many ways, it teaches you to be kind to others always and never judge a book by its cover although Shane West’s character came off a little rough around the edges he was actually a good guy who had a lot of love to give and Mandy Moore played the preaches daughter she was a good girl and I think they balanced each other out.

Ps: if you never seen this movie the ending is so sad but by now I’m sure most people have seen it( I even have it on dvd) love this movie definitely giving this five starts across the board.

2. Dear John-

Channing Tatum killed this role gave me the whole bad boy persona and then of course he left and I cried like a baby, Amanda Seyfried was beautiful as alway in this film she played her role so well plus this is the perfect love story and it ties into long distance relationships( one of my previous post) can they last? And how most people deal with them. It always goes to show you have to cherish the times you have with people because you never know what’s going to happen.

3.Romeo & Juliet-

This is such a classic love story the montagues and capulets it’s so beautiful seeing how Romeo and Juliet truly loved each other. Leonardo DiCaprio and Claire Danes played these roles so well , I loved that they made a modern day version of this movie and I love how true love is seen in a different way/light. I’m sure a lot of people can relate to loving or liking someone who comes from a different background and maybe your family or friends don’t like that person or don’t see their potential but you do and true love is always worth fighting for only thing that I didn’t like was how it ended wish it was a better solution then, them both losing their lives.

4.Cruel intentions-

I know most people might be like this isn’t romance but in my opinion it is once you look pass everything that happened in the movie plus Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillipe made such a cute couple. ( not to mention he was super cute) I love how it all started out as a bet but as time went on he started to fall in love with her and wanted to change who he was to be with her, it’s always those un expected love stories that mean the most because you know your fighting for something that’s worth it, I wish his step sister hadn’t got all in the way but at least in the end Reese’s character can remember all the good times she had with him and she got the car so can’t go wrong with that either, Love is love.

5.raise your voice/a cinderella story

Ok so I kinda threw two movies in there sorry guys I loved both, so Hilary duff has an amazing singing/acting career and I absolutely loved her in these movies raise your voice was so sad when her brother passed away but she persevered and went on to her performing arts school, focused on her music and met a cute guy that accepted her for her even with the few bumps in the road they made their relationship work, a Cinderella story was so good it goes back to Cinderella and those wicked step sisters a modern day version but it’s so good, she was a great girl who only wanted the best for herself after her father passed but she got stuck with a wicked step mother and step sisters. I loved how in the end her and chad Michael Murray’s character make it all work out and it should let people know love does exist so never give up on it no matter what. (Also guys remember you are beautiful and don’t let no one tell you different.

Ok so these are my top 5 + 6 movies that I love and own most of these on dvd, yes I’m a sucker for a good love story and I live for a happy ending. I know that love does exist and if you don’t have it now one day you will (be patient) whatever your looking for is on its way. So In honor of motivation Monday remember to keep pushing ,stay motivated and love hard always/live with no regrets, it may not work out all the time but trust me the right person is out there(I’m a firm believer in soulmates) but I’ll save that for another post, enjoy the rest of this motivation Monday!

Also guys I’m going to do a part 2 to this post because I wanna add more movies.

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Falling in love, 5 signs i knew (he) was the one.

Happy Sunday, waking up to another day full of life and the first thing on my mind was “love” in my opinion love is one of the most important things you can give someone it’s also one of the best feelings when it’s reciprocated back to you. I haven’t always had the best relationships and I have had my fair share of heart breaks and moments where giving up felt like the only option. I’m here today to share my story and to tell you the 5 signs that let me know my boyfriend was the one.

Everyone’s story is different

This is mine… let’s go on a

Little Journey..

I stated in a previous post (long distance relationships) how I met my boyfriend so I won’t go in to all that detail again but if you wanna know the story you can go check out that post. I remember a year ago being alone trying to be a single parent, working and trying to keep it all together in all honesty I wasn’t looking for love but along the way I kept meeting the wrong people and wasting my time. I was in the middle of giving up on love when I met my current boyfriend he was cute, sweet, loving and most of all he didn’t try to change me and he treated me like a queen and still does.

I was so use to dating guys who had abused me, called me out my name, constantly disrespect me, cheated on me and tried to control me that when he came into my life, I wasn’t sure what to expect. In the beginning I pushed him away a lot because of my fears and I wasn’t as open as I could of been. I did things that he didn’t understand but it was all to protect my heart from getting broken again. Eventually my walls came down and I noticed myself being relaxed with him, I noticed myself being able to talk to him about anything and I started to trust him. In my heart I started to see that he wasn’t like the others, that he was indeed different and it wasn’t just from his words but his actions spoke loud too, he was keeping his promises he would show up whenever I needed him, he made sure that I was ok and the biggest thing here, he excepted my daughter and made sure that we were both ok.

5 signs? Ok let’s get in to it..

1. He excepted my daughter

This is the biggest sign because the moment I explained to him my situation that I was a single parent and had a daughter he wanted to meet her and get to know her. When they met it was beautiful he spent time with her, played with her and got to know her better.

2. He excepted me for who I was

In all my relationships the guy always tried to change me I couldn’t be myself and I felt like I was living a lie honestly, when I met my current boyfriend he liked everything about me he excepted me for who I was he always tells me I’m beautiful and that I can accomplish whatever I want to in life he never wants me to be anything but my true authentic self.

3. He introduces me to everyone as his girlfriend not just “my friend”

This is a major one guys because if a guy/girl introduces you as a friend they are not that into you at all (my opinion) unless you really are just friends 🤷‍♀️ but when I’m dating someone and they say that inside I cringe. When I met his family/friends he said “this is my girlfriend cherelle” he never said this is my “friend” that’s always good, introduction is everything and the fact that he respected me enough and though of me enough to do that it meant a lot.

4. He has god in his life

I know not everyone is super religious I myself am not either but I do believe in god and I believe everything happens for a reason I was always taught that with god In your life/in your relationship nothing can go wrong and I’m glad that his on my level of spirituality and we both pray for each other. (If your not religious or don’t believe that’s fine I’m not judging at all everyone is different this is just my opinion/my story).

5. He has goals in life

Yes yes this is a good one, I’m very goal Oriented and I have a great career so of course the person I’m with has to be on the same level as me I’m not saying he has to be perfect but I want him to at least be striving to do the best he can in his life. My boyfriend has plenty of goals he knows what he wants out of life and strives to be better everyday. That’s so important when dating you and your partner should always want more and better things for yourself always (again I’m not judging at all just saying it’s always good to have goals in life you may not be where you want to be but always strive to get there, remember everyone has to start some where)

Again these are all my opinions and all the things they made me fall in love with my boyfriend, everyone’s story is different and of course I could of went on with more signs but those are the ones that came to mind when writing this post, remember love is out there so don’t give up on finding the one for you also there is nothing wrong with being single either. I was for a very long time,I spent most of that time trying to find myself and be happy with who I was.

I woke up thinking about “love” it’s Sunday guys so go spread some love and positivity.

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Long distance relationships, Do they work? Can they work? My experience!

this topic always comes to mind especially when I’m around a group of people and we tend to talk about our dating lives, I don’t think anyone intends on getting in a long distance relationship but it happens sometimes, you never know where fate will lead you. I met my boyfriend a year ago on a dating site yes I said it a dating site at the time I wasn’t sure what I really wanted or even why I was using the app but hey I tried it out anyway. My boyfriend lives in another city we’re currently two hours apart, yes some people may say “that’s nothing my boyfriend lives in another state” and yes I completely get it however being far away from the person you love can be extremely hard sometimes, I don’t get to see my boyfriend as often as I would like because he works a lot and I work and I have my daughter so our scheldues can conflict at times , we try to see each other twice a month at the most. The main reason I’m writing this is to give you guys some tips on how to handle the relationship when you feel like giving up because sometimes it happens. So here are a few tips that will help you survive a long distance relationship. (They have helped me)

What can you do:

1. Always communicate(by phone, through text messages, even FaceTime)

2. Send each other cute gifts through the mail

( let the other person know your thinking of

Them)

3. Don’t let everyone around you get in your

Head ( remember it’s your relationship no

One else’s)

4. make every single moment count

(make it memorable)

5. Choose to be happy no matter what

(Even if it doesn’t work out at least you can

Say you tried.

(Also these tips may not help everyone this

Is just what has helped me and my

Boyfriend so I thought I would share)

With that being said has anyone ever dated long distance, did it workout? Did you give up? Also who has met their significant other online?

Remember don’t give up, Love is waiting!