Lifestyle

Women to women|Coming together.

It’s crazy because, I originally was going to do another post but instead I ended up picking this topic because day in and day out, I see so much bickering between women and it’s sad that as women we tend to pit ourselves against each other or down one another. we’re our own worse enemy and can’t even see it, it’s bad enough some(keyword some because not all men do this) men put us down but then we turn around and do it to ourselves and I can’t seem to understand why? I’ve watched another women go to another women’s page just to comment on a picture they didn’t like or to tear that women down for no reason at all, how do you sleep at night? And then the main ones that get me are the ones that put “child of god” in their bio like please that has to be a sick joke you cannot call yourself such a thing mean while your putting someone else down or name calling someone and I agree everyone has the right to their own opinion but there’s a difference, when it’s coming from a good place or when your just being plain nasty for no reason.

My experience..

I’ve never really fit into the in crowd, I’ve never been miss popularity but at the same time I’ve never felt the need to be anyone but me, I was bullied all through school by the mean girls as we call them. I never understood why someone can be so cruel, I was name called and told I was ugly, fat, and stupid by girls who didn’t even know me and their words started to eat at me as I got older and I started to believe it to a certain extent witch lead me down a path of destruction, starving myself, going days with no food and exercising constantly, hating the person behind the mirror. It’s weird to say those same girls now are fake friendly whenever they see me out but of course I never forget, my cousins ex also use to bully me in school and then turned around and tried to be nice to me because she was dating him. I can forgive a lot of things but trust me this girl will never forget.

The things I see.

I’m randomly on instagram today and as usual I’m scrolling down my time line and also looking at the search section where they show a bunch of pictures of celebrities, it saddens me to see so many women downing other women or saying ignorant things to be mean for no reason,like what is your motive? I honestly feel a lot of it is jealousy and the other part is women not liking who they are, self esteem is definitely a killer and will have you hating who you are, I’ve been there before. I will say this it’s no ones problem because you don’t like who you are and you should not treat others like shit because you don’t love yourself, it’s up to you to fix the broken pieces in you and get yourself together but don’t down another women or another person in general because you don’t like the shoes your in. I have to give tough love in this post for so many reasons because this is seen so much and it shouldn’t be.

Things to work on..

If you or anyone you know is that girl, I will say this it’s not too late to change who you are, and the next time you get online or even in person and see something you don’t like, keep scrolling it’s not hard, I do it all the time. I think as women we should always back each other the world we live in is already cold enough so why down one another. We have this new “me too” movement in place witch is suppose to be women empowerment yet still in some ways we have a long way to go as far as coming together but that’s a whole other topic. I truly encourage you to love on one another and treat each other the way you want to be treated stop putting others down and love yourself and the next time you think about saying something mean turn it into a positive.

Conclusion..

We have to stick together and show love each time we get a chance, so women even men let’s rise above the drama and be better than ever. I challenge you to go out today/tomorrow and say something nice to someone you love.

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Favorite date night spots|Iā€™m gearing up for date night this weekend!!

I’m a hopeless romantic as alway and I’m always in the mood to talk about love and share my experiences so in honor of my up coming date night this weekend, I thought I would share some of my favorite date night places also great date places to go whenever your in the mood for a date and some fun.

1. Dinner

So dinner at your favorite restaurant with great food and even fantastic conversation can never go wrong you and your date can sit across from one another and truly get to know each other over a glass of wine or even water if drinking isn’t your thing. You can go to a fancy restaurant down town or even some place simple whatever makes you and your date happy either way going out to eat is a great choice for a first date. The night can be full of surprises yes it can.(by the way my favorite restaurant is red lobster)

2. Movies

I know some might be thinking this is so basic but no my boyfriend and I love to go to the cinema bistro it offers movies plus dinner and drinks it’s so much fun when picking the right movie it’s my boyfriends favorite place to go and like always he ends up picking the movie and I talk his head off trying to figure out what’s going to happens next. This is also good for a first date because you can watch your favorite movie and get to know your date at the same time so it’s a win win for both (personally I would rather watch movies at home) but I will do the movies for him.

3. Park

It’s nothing like a good old fashion date in the park with a picnic because you can eat and talk and be one with nature. I’ve always wanted to do a picnic never done it though but I say go for it and please enjoy yourself their is so many other things you can do in the park for Instance play a game of frisbee, walk the trails, even cook on the grill. It’s all about having fun and enjoying the nature with your significant other and if your like me and you love the outside then this is right up your ally so I say go ahead and make your park date happen soon rather then later. You won’t regret it!

4.spend time alone inside

Ok ok I know what your thinking how the hell is staying inside a good date well let me tell you all you have to do is cook your partner some dinner and cuddle up on the couch for some movies it’s the perfect set up and you don’t have to leave home, I love doing things like this with my boyfriend mainly because I’m a homebody anyway but also because you don’t always have to leave home to have a good time remember that, sometimes it’s ok to stay in and enjoy each other’s company once in a while. So try it sometime and close the outside world out for a little while šŸ™‚

5.bowling

I suck at bowling and I cannot bowl a strike to save my life but hey it’s not always about winning right? The point is this is a fun exciting date where you can get to know your date and have a good time while doing it, they even have good nachos mmm love my nachos but seriously guys this is a great place to go and you don’t have to take yourself so serious you can showcase your fun side and while also showing the other person your hobbies so it’s kind of a win win and soo much fun at the same time so I say let’s go bowling šŸŽ³ no realkt let’s go šŸ‘‰ lol

6. The bar

Yes I know what your thinking but some people don’t want the date to be super serious or uncomfortable so going to a bar to talk or have a drink or two isn’t the worse thing in the world. Some bars even do karaoke night and you can never go wrong with that. The idea is to not take yourself so serious and learn to have some fun again I say go for it, it’s really whatever makes you happy either way as long as your getting to know the person and having fun that’s all that matters in the end.

Conclusion

Date night should alway be something you should keep in your relationship it helps to go out every now and then and enjoy some alone time with your partner so between your busy Schedule always try to make time for one another and live in the moment always. I can’t wait for date night and I hope your next days is everything you want it to be and more. enjoy your Tuesday night I’ll be enjoying mine because I’m off to bed, time to close my eyes.

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My favorite Netflix movies/ I watched on Saturday/go watch!

Ok, my babies I’m back finally! I been ripping and running all day but now, I wanna talk to you about my favorite Netflix movies I watched over the weekend. So I’m not going to talk too much and ramble like normal. Let’s get in to it!

Top movies I loved on NETFLIX..

1. Sierra burgess is a loser-

This movie left me on the edge of my seat it had its good and bad moments but it really let me see in to the eyes of a teenage girl who didn’t look like everyone else but wanted to fit in and be normal, it really goes to say never judge a book by its cover and treat others the way you wanna be treated, in the end she did land the guy she liked but in my mind I can’t help but wonder, would the ending really end like this in real life or would it be different either way my opinion this was a great movie and I suggest watching it with a tissue in hand because it’s a real tear jerker.

2.till death do us part-

This movie was so sad again it was about domestic violence and it broke my heart to see a women have to go through this and on top of that being that she was pregnant but I was glad when she finally got away from him and fell in love with (Taye diggs) character and it was beautiful to see her be happy again with a good guy, please please ladies even men don’t stay in a relationship where you are being treated bad and getting less then what you deserve, this is another tear jerker so grab a tissue again and prepare yourself.

3.Clinical-

This movie was so good and crazy and all over the place and even a little scary( my opinion) it was a great movie seeing how the therapist had to deal with all kind of patients all day and when she met a guy who’s face was disfigured and had to treat him things get a little crazy, I don’t wanna give too much away guys but you have to see this movie it will keep you guessing the whole time and you won’t know where your going to end up or go but it will take you there so go watch and tell me what you think.

4.the open house-

This movie was definitely suspenseful, like you never knew what was going to happen in the beginning,it was sad then it went from sad to scary and you start to wonder what’s going to happen next. The whole movie threw me off in some parts but it was good and yes I cried like a baby in the beginning ughh it got me yes it did the movie was great however, I will say when your relatives offer you to stay in their home in the middle of no where say no and run because you never know what’s going to happen next that’s all I’m going to say so if you wanna know more go watch.

5.Clown-

I watched this movie with my boyfriend it was his pick, I thought it was ok. I think that the guy should not have put that costume on though like they warned him not to do it yet he does and then bad things start to happen always listen people always listen. Let’s just say the rest of the movie is a whirlwind it leaves you wondering what’s next and the end shocks you too. Such a crazy/sad movie but it’s a great thriller and I think some people will like it once you start to understand it a little more so I say go watch this and see what you think.

Conclusion..

I’m so sorry this post is days old because I been so busy with work and home stuff and also trying to do videos for my YouTube channel and uploads so it’s been a crazy mess but I will do better with my posting guys I will. I hope you guys like this post and please go to Netflix and check these movies out they are so good and you don’t wanna miss out on them. (If you don’t have Netflix) borrow somebody’s account to see some movies don’t want you to miss a good watch. I’ll do a part 2 to this once I watch more movies this weekend. Enjoy your Tuesday night I’m off to bed gotta be up bright and early for work. šŸ˜“šŸ›

weight loss/Healthy food choices

My favorite healthy snacks

Ok, so as promised I will be giving you a list of my favorite healthy snacks, also good morning everyone it’s Tuesday mines is starting off a little rocky but I’ll get through it. Snacks don’t always have to be a cookie, cakes and chips it can also be something healthy as well, so when you get that urged In the middle of the night to eat something bad, remember to eat something healthy and light, your body will definitely thank you later.

My favorite snacks..

Fruit- so, I love fruit it’s not only healthy but extremely light and you can eat as much as you want without feeling guilty about it. Yes some fruit does contain sugar however it still is a Healthy snack and it taste good.

Yogurt- I absolutely love yogurt, I will eat it all the time literally, I usually do chobani or light and fit those are my favorites, you have to be careful what kind of yogurts you eat ,so always check the calorie intake also look at the sugar because some yogurt contains a lot of sugar witch isn’t good for your body so always check the labels on whatever you eat to be safe.

I love chips like the next person however chips are not always good for you so my nutritionist told me about baked chips they don’t taste as good as a regular chips but it has less calories and fat, it’s also better for you body( I don’t eat these all the time) but when I do I usually get the cheddar flavor that’s my favorite one,My daughter even loves these chips.

Pretzels- I love my pretzels this is a great snack, some people think because it’s bread it’s not good for you but it’s actually a light good snack for someone who is dieting, it’s not to heavy and it taste good also I don’t eat these everyday but when I do I’m in heaven because I love my pretzels.

Vegetable tray- I love love vegetable trays they are so good and a nice healthy snack especially with some ranch dressing, I buy these all the time Its a great snack for me when watching a movie, I usually get this from Walmart I believe it’s only 8 or 9 dollars for a tray it also depends on what size you get too.

Fiber one- I love these protein bars, they are so good and only 90 calories per bar. It’s always good to make sure you have a little protein in your everyday diet, weather it be through this or you can also get protein in your meats but it’s always good to get that through out the day. My fitness pal app keeps track of how much protein I’m taking in through out the day,it also tells me when I met my protein limit for the day.

Conclusion..

Snacks can be good for you, it’s all about moderation and how much you choose to eat, these are my favorite snacks and I have more so their will definitely be a part 2 as always to more snacks that I love but for now this is a few, remember weight loss takes time and don’t beat yourself up if one day goes wrong, try your best and stay motivated.

Ok so I love yogurt bars guys this is my favorite my mom and I buy these all the time so if your an ice cream lover like myself this is a great substitute for it, it’s only 80 calories and it taste so good the strawberry one is clearly my favorite but yes they do make more flavors so you gotta try this, where I live it’s only sold at target oh and Publix, Walmart stopped selling it for some reason. You gotta try these out guys I’m telling you.

Ok now I’m done āœ… no more snacks at least not today šŸ˜Š

Motivating Yourself/accomplishing your goals

Finding motivation, accomplishing your goals and Doing what makes you happy

I’m always writing long post so this time, I wanted to switch it up a little and do something different by making a video instead, lately I’ve been stuck on being more motivated and trying to pursue other things in my life that are important to me and I wanna do so much more in my life. I literally get sad sometimes when I feel like I haven’t done enough it’s a lot of goals I wanna meet and I’m always putting that pressure on myself to do it all knowing I’m only one person and I can’t do it all unfortunately.

I know this is all a process and I know sometimes we set goals for ourselves that take more time then what we expect but I know I have to keep staying motivated and believe that I can accomplish anything I’ve set my mind too, so again this video/ post is about motivating yourself and accomplishing your goals always no matter what, so guys stay motivated and keep pushing because anything you wanna achieve or do in life is always possible.

This will probably be one of the many moments that I won’t write a long post instead I’ll let the video speak for me. Enjoy your Tuesday night we’re so close to Friday two more days we can do it.

Ps: sorry I looked rough it was one of those days, plus I hadn’t not too long got home so ignore the plain jane look. I’ll do better next time!

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Loving others/judging less and learning to worry about you!

I see a lot of things on social media that absolutely drive me crazy but of course little old quiet me never says anything, social media can be a good thing sometimes and other times not so much but in 2018 it seems to have taken over our lives, even our kids are sucked into this world.

We see things online that bother us all the time, some people choose to ignore it, I’m one of those types and others choose to speak out against it. Someone might post something on twitter that really gets under your skin, someone on Instagram might post a picture that we don’t necessarily like or agree with. Trust me things like this are seen all the time but does it mean we always have to respond and put our two cents in always? We really don’t,we have the power to walk away we don’t have to type back nasty things to someone we don’t know, we don’t even have to like that picture that was posted that we feel isn’t appropriate.

Day in and day out I see the most craziest things happening online, the problem isn’t that person. the problem is us and how we choose to react to what that person is doing. The reality is it’s not our business to worry about what another person is doing. so we may not like it but it’s not our place to step in and say anything, now some people might feel different about this they may feel you should speak up on certain things and I completely agree with that,however saying things to a complete stranger isn’t going to change their behavior so instead we need to change our behavior on how we choose to react to them.

People are always going to do things we don’t agree with, they may say things that make no sense at all to you, you have to allow people to live their lives even when it’s not the way we choose to live ours. The world has so much judgment in it today and it’s honestly sad because you make one wrong move and that’s it people never forget that one mistake that you made, it may of happened two years ago but trust me someone is going to bring it up because they are not over your mistakes. Being a human bean we have to realize no one is perfect and to sit behind a computer screen and attack someone for their differences is crazy to me. (Even in person it’s still not ok) Stop judging people, stop acting like your god because your not and it’s not your place to act as if your better than another person, no one in this world is perfect but we all strive to try to be better daily for ourselves, our kids, our families or friends.

Everyone has a different story to tell you never know what they are going through what may go through that persons mind daily and bullying someone is never ok. It sounds harsh saying it especially out loud but worry about yourself more and your business and you won’t have to worry about what anyone else around you is doing. The world is crazy enough we should all be coming together as one not going against each other and trying to hurt one another.

Love your neighbor because sometimes all we really need is to be loved and to feel love coming from another person, let’s try to judge less and love more is all I’m saying.

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